Kits should allow you to explore new things safely and securely. The Flame Harness Kit fits the bill. It boasts a dildo with flames sculpted into the tip and a gorgeous purple velvet harness. The harness is machine washable, and fits hips up to 60" with straps that are adjustable for optimum comfort.
But that's not all! The harness has a pocket that holds a little bullet vibrator (included), makes the harness feel like vibrating panties to the wearer, and carries down the dense silicone to the receiver. This kit will stand up to use and will grow with you; just switch out the included O-ring out for one of another size and it will accommodate different diameter toys.